tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37149409229145844172024-03-13T13:19:00.165-07:00The Esoteric ExistentialistAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02932547748512752260noreply@blogger.comBlogger122125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3714940922914584417.post-62785163314956138402014-03-21T15:48:00.000-07:002014-03-26T14:43:52.647-07:00A change is gonna come...<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Recent court decisions overturning state bans on same-sex marriage are hastening the day when same-sex marriage will be legal across the country. I was reading a response to an article the other day in which the post said that the court should respect the votes of the majority of citizens in that state to pass a constitutional ban on same-sex marriage. I shuttered at the thought of the awful things people could do if everything was left to the will of the legislative and electoral process. Some rights are not given in laws, but inalienable. While I wouldn't necessarily go so far as to say that the right to marry is inalienable, the right to equality is. Therefore, if a state wants to outlaw all legal unions - which would be absurd, but I'm making a point here - then that would be fine with me. But if the state allows two people to legally marry, then they have to allow another two people to legally marry (I won't get into polygymy and such, because the history there makes that issue much more complicated). There is absolutely no argument - legal or other - that anyone can make (except for religious, but that doesn't matter in our system of government) that would rationally determine that opposite sex people should be able to marry, but same-sex people should not. Further, marriage is a convenant and legal union between two people (and the state), and has absolutely nothing to do with anyone else. Therefore, the electoral process should have no determination on how two people decide they want to declare their partnership; whether that be choosing to remain unmarried, a civil union, or a religious ceremony.<br />
The people who continue to disagree with same-sex marriage may have their reasons; and I don't want to say that all, or even most, of them are bad people - they're just wrong. They are not only fighting an uphill battle at this point, they're fighting a losing battle. And much like those who supported miscegenation laws before interracial marriage became legal, they will be proven to be on the wrong side of history. The day is coming, and it's coming quickly. But the odd thing is, there's nothing to fear. Legalizing same-sex marriage nationally will have absolutely no effect on opposite sex couples, but will have a major impact on same-sex couples and will finally give them the recognition that they deserve, rather than (ironically) making their unions and families unlawful.<br />
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nEM4VlnGNXU&feature=kpAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02932547748512752260noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3714940922914584417.post-82165237126134626752014-01-27T16:00:00.001-08:002014-01-27T16:00:28.088-08:00There's nothing wrong with being content...<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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It's been a while. I've been busy and to be honest I haven't had that much to write. 2014 has been a wonderful year thus far. I spent New Years and the first couple of weeks in Haiti - another wonderful trip that increased my interest in the country - and have since been buckling down with school and work.<br />
The thing is, these activities are nothing different from what I have been doing for over a year, but somehow these last few months have been better. I think it's attitude. I don't know when it was exactly that I had this sort of "AH-HAH" moment, but I think that I was lamenting my lack of interest in work and my grueling school work, when I finally realized that I alone determine my level of happiness.<br />
I'm me. That's all I am. That's all I can control. I can be upset at the world around me, or the people around me, for not being exactly what I want them to be, but where does that get me? The only thing I can control is how I react to the people and the world around me. If I improve my outlook on things, and start trying to change the people around me and world around me to reflect more positivity and happiness, rather than allowing it to bring me down into negativity and misery, I think we are all (but especially myself) better for it.<br />
So this is what I've been doing. When I've noticed people who constantly have a rain cloud over their head, I a) give them as little of my time as possible, and b) shower them with positivity during our limited interactions so that they don't bring me down, and it may brighten their day a little. We all know malcontents, and the thing that malcontents want to do more than anything is spread their misery. If everyone is unhappy, then it makes their unhappiness seem less glaring. But see, I don't want to operate like that. I don't want to live in that world. The majority of those people have little to be so unhappy about, and their gripes are manufactured, or at most small annoyances, that they allow to rule their attitude.<br />
I'm done with it. Life is too short to get caught in the easy "...everything sucks..." conversation. My response these days, "Sorry, things are going pretty well here." You'll never shut a malcontented person up faster than by telling them that things are great and that they have nothing to be upset about. But wallowing has a comfortable feel in our culture and so it's often easy for these people to draw others into their misery, rather than have others pull them out (or just detach).<br />
I don't know when it happened that mutual dissatisfaction became the easy connection, but we need a major shift away from this, because it's making people completely miss out on their lives, and ignore all of the great things around them.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02932547748512752260noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3714940922914584417.post-76781843316345809892013-11-05T10:18:00.000-08:002013-11-05T10:18:36.585-08:00Killing the spirit...<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>I finally saw 12 Years a Slave last weekend (it took a while to make it to Portland). THIS. MOVIE. IS. INTENSE. This movie shows a glimpse of the brutal reality and monotony that slavery was. Harder than watching some of the brutal scenes in the movie is knowing that reality was much more harsh and much more frequent. Even after watching this movie, and other movies about slaves that have come before, I can't understand the smallest inkling of what it would be link to be a slave; not only physically, but more so psychologically. To be treated as less than a person. To be treated as property. Slavery is one of the most dehumanizing institutions that has ever existed. The myth of the southern gentleman permeated the national conscious to the point that slave owners in the south were not strictly viewed (at the time) as cold-hearted, horrible people. Even the account of Solomon Northup speaking of his first "master", William Ford, speaks with relative fondness for the treatment he received from Ford, as opposed to Edwin Epps. Because slavery was so dehumanizing, one's perspective on the world becomes skewed, and the idea of horrible, bad, good, love, hate, all become ambiguous. Northup believed that William Ford cared for him, but Ford sold him as property to another man to repay a debt without a second thought.<br />
<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>12 Years A Slave was a very powerful movie, and I think one that a lot of people should see if for no other reason than to be reminded of the horrible past that our country has, and one that continues to have repercussions in contemporary society. However, as much as the story of a kidnapped free man in the north being sold into slavery shook me, I couldn't help but think of the lives of those that were born into and lived their whole lives within the slave system. You see, Solomon Northup knew freedom. He lived a normal life in Saratoga Springs, NY, and was well educated, well read, and very talented. His experience being sold into slavery is awful beyond comprehension. But what kept him going day in and day out during his time in slavery was hope. He kept hope alive that he would somehow get out of this hell that he'd been thrown into. That he would someday escape, or that someone would recognize that we was a free man, or that something miraculous would happen. And indeed it did. It was his hope that forced him to talk to Samuel Bass about his situation and ask him to deliver the fateful letter for him that ultimately lead to his freedom. Hope kept him going during his lowest moments in bondage. But hope is something reserved for those who believe they can have something different.<br />
<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>The slaves that were born on the plantation and lived their whole lives in the slave system knew no such hope. There may have been exceptions, but for those born into the system any semblance of hope had been literally beaten out of them over the course of their lives. People who knew nothing different could have little hope for something different. There is a poignant scene in the movie where Patsey asks Solomon to take her down to the river and drown her. He refuses to do so, because he as a former free man doesn't understand that she knows that there is no hope for her. There are no better days. There is no freedom. The only freedom for her is that provided by religion and the promise of life in heaven once her time on earth is through. To her that freedom is the only hope, so death is not the worst thing one can imagine, because life offers all of the horrors one needs, with no prospect for an end. As I said before, slavery is one of the most dehumanizing institutions that has ever existed; and this is not simply because slaves were not treated as humans by the slave owners, but more so because the slave owners destroyed their lives by removing the one thing that keeps people moving forward - hope.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02932547748512752260noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3714940922914584417.post-17727224854247425862013-10-11T13:25:00.000-07:002013-10-11T13:25:15.490-07:00Do you really...?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Support the troops.<br />
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That, for me, is both a statement and a question. The question is not whether to support the troops, but rather in what way should we support the troops. Also, in what way do the troops support us?<br />
It has become rote in this country to qualify any critical statement about the military or military spending with a statement indicating that you support the troops - I do it myself. I guess it's because people don't want to be seen as patriotic or insensitive of young men and women sacrificing their lives for their country. But are they sacrificing needlessly? What exactly are our troops killing and being killed for? Is it really a security issue? Is the colossal expenditure of our national budget that goes to the DOD (not to mention other security-related issues) really worth it? Aren't the soldiers supposed to be supporting the ideals of our country like Democracy, freedom, equality, and rights? But if you think about it, our country doesn't uphold these things.<br />
We have a Congress that is completely inept at working together and a general populace that does give one iota about supporting their fellow countrymen. We as a country are still plagued by racism, sexism, sexual orientationism, agism, regionalism, and probably many other -isms. We love nothing more than slicing our country up by as many demographic factors we can think of, and then doling out opportunity, power, and money to those that are deemed most worthy.<br />
The irony of the military support is a lot of young members of the military come from places and circumstances that the people who support them once they're troops couldn't care less about. They're from poor, rural areas where the lack of opportunity forces them to find something to open up doors for them, and the military is often this option. Also, the people with those stickers on their cars tend to be the very people who support the troops only, but not where those troops came from or the the economic circumstances that drew them to the military in the first place. This is why we see so many young men and women who have completed their military service left in the lurch by these "troop supporters", because now that they're back to being civilians they have nothing to offer - whether it be security or a political statement. Veterans are ignored by these "support the troops" folks. This is very similar to the anti-choice protesters who care so much about the life of an unborn fetus, but once that baby comes into the world they care nothing about refusing assistance for food, medical care, or education. It's all hypocritical, political bull$hit.<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02932547748512752260noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3714940922914584417.post-67610075032517719282013-10-01T14:48:00.000-07:002013-10-01T14:48:14.017-07:00It's not what you think it is...<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-5xklKFeBWhs/UktCvckw45I/AAAAAAAABxY/4wsRTWK7Gss/s1600/Government+shutdown.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em; text-align: center;"><img border="0" height="180" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-5xklKFeBWhs/UktCvckw45I/AAAAAAAABxY/4wsRTWK7Gss/s320/Government+shutdown.jpg" width="320" /></a>This government shutdown is the least surprising thing to happen since Barack Obama took office. It's been inevitable for some time, and to be honest, I'm surprised that it didn't come sooner during one of fights over the debt ceiling. The unfortunate reality is that this is exactly what Republicans - or at least tea party Republicans - have wanted for a long time. Republicans believe that a) the government is too large and b) that the government spends too much money.<br />
Therefore, "starving the beast", as it were, is the only way to create what they would consider substantive policy to limit the size, scope, and spending of the U.S. government. To use an Obama analogy, they want to use a chainsaw to cut the U.S. budget, when a scalpel is necessary.<br />
Sure, the U.S. government spends too much money. Democrats, Republicans, liberals, conservatives, libertarians, etc. all agree with that. But just what the government SHOULD be spending the money on and what it shouldn't is not at all agreed. Conservatives typically believe that we should be cutting any and all social programs; including education, health care, medicare, medicaid, unemployment, etc. Basically those things that support the majority of older and low-income Americans - and don't create profit. While Democrats typically want to cut things like military spending, tax subsidies to wealthy individuals and companies, and raise corporate taxes. These are two different perspectives on the role of government, and to be fair are worthy of a legitimate, healthy debate.<br />
However, the arena for hashing out this debate is not a continuing resolution to pay the government's bills. Especially when Republicans are using it as an excuse to defund the signature legislation of the Obama administration, before it's even been implemented. Republicans don't even want to give it an opportunity to work, even though the American public essentially supported the ACA by re-electing the man whose name has become synonymous with the law.<br />
So by shutting down the government, Republicans have essentially won this round. We can only hope that the American people see what they are trying to do and recognize that Republicans are not attempting to defund Obamacare (the ACA), but instead trying to starve government to the point of ineffectiveness, so that only those essential functions will be taken care of (which for them is military only). There's a good chance Republicans will take the PR hit for this government shutdown, but Americans are so apathetic, misinformed, and myopic, that unfortunately I don't think this government shutdown will have an major electoral impact.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02932547748512752260noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3714940922914584417.post-81814971411484591802013-09-06T12:01:00.000-07:002013-09-06T12:01:11.202-07:00Managing expectations...<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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The situation in Syria is awful. People are dying. People have died. A dictator is doing whatever he has to do to maintain power. It's a nightmare. But it's also a moral conundrum. Our country is fatigued by ten years of war in Iraq that was begun with an unclear objective (or possibly even a lie) and a continuing conflict in Afghanistan that is mired by continuing problem of what will happen when we leave.<br />
Certainly there is an argument to be made that getting involved in Syria is a moral imperative to stop the killing of the opposition by Bashar al-Assad. But is the opposition "right"? Is there a "right"? Do we wan to support either side in this conflict? What are the long term benefits and consequences to getting involved? Also, why is the use of chemical weapons the "red line", but we've stood by while the government troops have killed around 100,000 opposition fighters. That's not a red line?<br />
So besides the unignorable fact that we've stood by and let 100,000 people die during this conflict, there is also the larger problem of the goals and expectations of getting involved in Syria. If we were to go in with limited airstrikes - which would be mostly a symbolic gesture - what would the long-term impact be on the actions of the Assad regime? Little to nothing. Airstrikes may make it known to Assad that we're willing to "get involved", but would be more likely to show that we're interested in making gestures but actually NOT getting involved. Basically an airstrike would indicate exactly the opposite of what we would hope to indicate. But on the other side of the coin is a full-scale, "boots-on-the-ground" military involvement. This is the furthest thing anyone in the United States wants, and that includes citizens and those within government. It's a sticky situation that not even foreign policy hawks want to become involved in.<br />
So the question then becomes what to do? I guess my answer is I don't know. But I don't support military engagement. I would support an multilateral effort involving countries in the region and international players making a decision about what the best course of action would be. But a unilateral, or even bilateral (if France stays interested), incursion would be the furthest thing from beneficial that we as a country could do. So while the moral implications way heavily on my heart, I don't see how launching airstrikes (that have the unfortunately high potential of adding to the civilian death toll) or sending soldiers in can be anything but harmful to both U.S. interests and civilians in Syria. My prescription is that we either sit this one out and keep a watchful eye on situation, or try to bring together an international coalition (that includes countries in the Middle East) that comes together to figure out whether military intervention would be a net positive or negative.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02932547748512752260noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3714940922914584417.post-58259448726336264862013-08-28T10:17:00.000-07:002013-08-29T15:16:13.114-07:00I don't have a dream, I have a demand...<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Today marks the 50th anniversary of the March on Washington for Jobs and Freedom. That historic march, organized by legendary activist Bayard Rustin, and at which Reverend Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. delivered his historic "I Have a Dream" speech, was a landmark occasion in the history of civil rights in the United States. And while I certainly don't want to understate the importance of the event, many people use the March on Washington, and the ensuing passage of the Civil Rights and Voting Rights Acts, as evidence that we've "made it" with regard to racial equality.<br />
But they're wrong. We've stagnated in our race relations. In fact, with the recent Supreme Court decision striking down section 5 of the voting Rights Act, and the current and inevitable future efforts of many to restrict the right to vote for many poor and minority citizens, we're actually moving backward. Those with ill intentions continue to play on racial fears and ignorance to push forward their agendas of white supremacy and economic monopolization. We still see gross differences between the opportunities of those born into affluent families versus those born into poor families; statistics show that little has changed when it comes to economic opportunity. There are gross disparities in education and access to vocational skill-building. And while many of these issues are tied to economic disparities, in many places in American society economic inequality has been intrinsically tied to racial inequality.<br />
It is impossible to deny that there is a problem, when black people are hugely disproportionately represented in the ranks of those in poverty, those incarcerated, those as victims of violence, and many other metrics. We need to be honest about where we are in terms of the civil rights movement. We were moving forward in the 60s. We began slowing down in the 70s. We basically stopped in the 80s. We started arguing about the gains in the 90s. We regressed and pretended that inequality didn't exist in the 00s. And now we're moving backward in the 10s.<br />
To turn things around will take honesty, openness, and effort. It can't be only black people that push for continued progress in the civil rights movement. We need equality for all people in this country and this world; immigrants, women, LBGTQ people, the poor, the sick, those from small towns and big cities, and everyone in between. Everyone is naturally equal; it is only because of ignorance, hate, and opportunism that our society has been twisted into believing that there are differences. Those who care need to keep caring and keep moving. Things will only happen if we make them happen.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02932547748512752260noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3714940922914584417.post-16685661486204053982013-08-16T11:46:00.000-07:002013-08-16T11:52:01.215-07:00We made it...<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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There is a scene at the end of the movie "The Graduate" that has always stuck with me - almost haunted me. In the scene, Benjamin Braddock (Dustin Hoffman) has just interrupted the wedding of his former girlfriend Elain (Katharine Ross) - whose mother he had an affair with - and they've escaped the angry mob in the church to hop on a bus toward "freedom". Both Ben and Elaine are gibby upon escaping the scene, but as they sit down and take even an initial stock of the situation they realize what a huge mistake they've made. Their faces move between forced smiles, awkard glances, and worried frowns.<br />
This is what has always haunted me about that part. I've always been a "love will conquer all"-type romantic. I've always disregarded statistics and anecdotes about couples that have been in the same or similar situations as I have and failed. I just figured that "falling for" someone meant that you were perfect for each other and that things would inevitably work out in the end. But then along comes "The Graduate" and throws a wrench into that whole line of thinking. They had overcome a major obstacle in the fact that Ben had had an affair with Elaine's mother, but they were "in love" enough to believe in the moment that running off together would actually make them happy. And what happens immediately after the excitement of escape has subsided and the first tinge of reality breaks through, they immediately realize the error of their ways.<br />
I certainly don't live my life by the lessons learned from a movie, but I will say that this particular scene has resonated with me. That's not to say I've changed my actions, even if I've changed my opinions. I still find myself falling to hard to fast for women that I should probably recognize right away will not be with me for the long term. I don't know if that's human nature, or just my nature. Maybe I'm a jump in head first type of person; so instead of weighing the pros and cons of being in the pool, I just want to know how the water feels.<br />
There are certainly negatives associated with being too tentative in relationships as well, or being afraid of committing to someone, but I guess we've all got our baggage to haul. I guess all of this is to say that I think that scene, and specifically the look on Hoffman's face when they are sitting on that bus, is perfect metaphor for the reality of relationships throughout my life. Risk - excitement - reality. Risk - excitement - reality. Maybe one day reality will be a smile, not a frown.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02932547748512752260noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3714940922914584417.post-59272395344398498402013-08-15T09:00:00.000-07:002013-08-15T09:00:46.226-07:00Voting "rights"...<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Do we live in a democracy? It's hard to know anymore. It's hard to know if we ever did. The definition of democracy is "a form of government in which the supreme power is vested in the people and exercised directly by them or by their elected agents under a free electoral system." Other definitions include terms like equality and rights. But it doesn't seem like the United States has lived up to any definition.<br />
"In the beginning"...of this enterprise we call the United States, land-owning white men were the only people with any rights; and therefore the only people that could vote. This eventually changed to include all men. Then eventually it included land-owning former slaves. Then eventually it included women. Then eventually, with the Voting Rights Act of 1965, it included EVERYONE. Well, in theory it included everyone.<br />
Since the passage of the Voting Rights Act, there has been a major effort made in several parts of the country to slowly deconstruct the bill. States have passed laws challenging the Voting Rights Act in an effort to limit the voting of racial and ethnic minorities, women, and immigrants. In addition, they attempted to discriminate against the poor, the elderly, and the infirmed. Basically, what some people in this country are trying to do is take us back to 1840 when only wealthy white men could vote.<br />
What baffles me about this is not so much that politicians would support this; because unfortunately politicians don't seen the country (or the world) through the lens of humanity, but instead through he lens of politics. Therefore, if a politician in Alabama would benefit from the disenfranchisement of poor and minority citizens in their state, they're probably going to support it, regardless of the societal repercussions of that decision. It's not necessarily true that the individual is discriminatory (though it's not necessarily true that they're not, either), they're just opportunistic. But what they fail to realize is that their opportunism has real societal consequences that will live on much longer than their political careers. A mistrust or outright disgust for the electoral system is a consequence of that opportunism. And this is especially true among minorities and the poor.<br />
While politicians may benefit from this narrowing of the political class, in the long run you're creating a society that hates politics and politicians, and could possibly (and will probably) one day rebel. Their attempts to keep white men on top will prove fruitless in the long run, because the reality is that old white men are dying every single day. And as the old guard of opportunistic politicians die out, we see the rise of younger politicians who, though they may still be opportunistic or even discriminatory, have to be much more pragmatic in a changing world.<br />
Which brings us to the Supreme Courts decision to strike down section 5 of the Voting Rights Act. This specific provision basically makes mandatory a review of any changes to election laws made by states that have a history of discrimination in voting laws. Congress extended section 5 in both 1970 and 1975, and again in 1982, and lastly in 2006.<br />
Therefore, despite antipathy among members of Congress, they were willing to uphold a piece of legislation that they determined was the bedrock of equality in voting. The Supreme Court decided otherwise. The problem with this decision is that even before the SCOTUS struck down section 5, we've seen an unrelenting effort (mostly by Republicans) to disenfranchise any and all people (or rather groups) they felt would vote Democrat. There have been requirements to buy government issued IDs (essentially a poll tax), limiting of voting times, closing of voting locations, confusing ballots, etc. All of these efforts are having the desired effect of those pushing them. They're creating confusion that leads to frustration, and eventually apathy toward the electoral process.<br />
But we can't give in this easily. If we continue to be frustrated and allow those that would disenfranchise people to win, things are only going to get worse. We're going to see more than just voting rights go out the window; but rather our civil rights as well. It's time to get mad. It's time for people who don't agree with the direction we're heading to stand in front of the tank (so to speak), to set themselves on fire (so to speak), to chain themselves to the tree (so to speak), to refuse to leave the lunch counter (so to speak). Because right now we're playing right into the game of those that want to take away rights. They want us frustrated. They want us apathetic. They want us averse to the electoral and political process. It makes it a whole lot easier for wealthy white men to dominate if no one else wants to be part of the process.<br />
So get angry. Protest. Start a march. Write your congressman and tell them to re-pass section 5 of the voting rights act with updated numbers of voter discrimination. It's time to act. Because it's better to change things now than to wait until the change will not be what anyone expects and will have the potential to create instability.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02932547748512752260noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3714940922914584417.post-73840454332732652882013-07-16T08:54:00.000-07:002013-07-16T08:54:45.101-07:00Liberty and Justice for...Some...<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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When the verdict in the George Zimmerman case came down I don't know what I initially felt. I had been mentally preparing myself, and anyone that I talked to, for the inevitable acquittal that he was sure to get. It wasn't that I thought he wasn't guilty, but there were several factors that were contributing to the inevitability. The first major factor was that the prosecution was seeking a second degree murder conviction, which seemed to be a long shot at best. The only eye witness (other than Zimmerman and Martin) said that when he viewed the struggle Martin was on top, and what happened after that we have no clue, because we only have the perspective of George Zimmerman and not Trayvon Martin. Another major reason Zimmerman was inevitably going to be acquitted was that our country does not value the lives of young black men, and therefore a man that was portrayed by the media as a neighborhood watch captain was going to be seen as a good Samaritan, while a young black man in a hooded sweatshirt is going to be looked on with suspicion. Why do you think the defense took the posture of trying to portray Trayvon Martin as a "bad" kid? Because it made their defense that much easier when the jury can "understand" Zimmerman's feeling of suspicion and fear.<br />
The bottom line is that justice was NOT served in this case. I don't necessarily think that the jury was given enough evidence to convict Zimmerman of second degree murder, but the fact that he precipitated the encounter and then shot an unarmed 17 year old boy is wrong - flat out. It doesn't matter if Trayvon Martin confronted him; in fact, Martin had the right to do so under the very law that saw George Zimmerman acquitted. But nobody wants to bring that up. Nobody wants to be honest about the fact that if Trayvon Martin had been beating Zimmerman (according to Zimmerman's story) and had ended up killing him, we be protesting the CONVICTION of a 17 year old boy for the killing of a neighborhood watch captain - an innocent 17 year old boy.<br />
People in this country, or at least a lot of people, don't want to have an honest conversation about what the reality of this highlights; our culture does not value the lives of young black men the way it does everyone else. People don't want to hear that. People want to pretend the civil rights movement began, worked it's way through, and finished. Quick and easy. Equality. BULLSHIT. We haven't dealt with civil rights (at least minority civil rights) issues since the 1980s. And all of the contemporary problems we see linked to historical racism are swept under the rug or passed off from a societal problem, to a yoke that specific minority groups have to deal with themselves. There is no sense of accountability among the majority (white) society in our country that in order to solve the problem of race, class, gender, sexual orientation, etc. discrimination in this country, we all have to have an active interest, keep an open mind, and have an honest dialogue. Without a discussion, we will continue to see the horrible tragedies of Trayvon Martin, Oscar Grant, Sean Bell, Amadou Diallo, Jordan Davis, and hundreds of others who have been killed senselessly by a society that not only doesn't care about their death, but doesn't care about their life.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02932547748512752260noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3714940922914584417.post-62764739892102878442013-07-11T11:00:00.001-07:002013-07-11T11:01:39.984-07:00My Haitian revolution...<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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So I just got back after spending three weeks in Haiti. It was an amazing experience. It's actually very hard to put into words exactly how I felt being there or how I feel now that I'm back. I wouldn't necessary say that I feel "changed" in the way you often hear people say who have experienced something so alien to them, but I'm sure I will notice a subtle difference of perspective when looking at the world around me now that I'm back in a consumer-driven, more more more, society.<br />
I think that is what struck me most about Haiti. Not the cliched idea that people there are happier, because I think that something like that is difficult to gauge. But it did seem that the people there were more content with what they had. And I'm sure a lot of that was the fact that they didn't know any different, and outside media (i.e. the internet) is not readily available to everyone so they might not necessarily know what they're missing. Not that they would choose to go after all of the bullshit we focus our lives on even if they did, but I guess what struck me was that the people seemed to be much more focused on living for the moment, living for today. And I liked that. But I think that has also been a double-edged sword for a country that has been through a lot of shit over the course of it's history. And while living for today may make individuals more content with what they have, it makes it hard to build a society around that concept. Lack of planning and savings makes it hard to build infrastructure; sanitation services, sewer systems, water filtration, etc. And it seems that while Haiti's lack of these things is due in large part to a simple lack of financial resources, the other problem that may be in play is a lack of interest on the part of most Haitian people in planning for the future.<br />
I hope that doesn't sound culturally insensitive or relativist. In many ways I envy the perspective that most of the Haitians that I met have on the world. The constant need to improve and acquire more and more leads to a lot of unhappiness in our society and culture. But at the same time I think there are basic services of healthcare and infrastructure that are valuable to a society, and actually free up time and energy to focus on (what I would consider) more valuable activities. Now most of the time savings that we have in the United States are used for activities that actually end up wasting more time, but that is a different topic. I think there can and should be a happy medium. I don't think the people of Haiti would be unhappy with indoor plumbing that piped in clean drinking water so they didn't have to spend so much time gathering and filtering or boiling their water. Or with garbage being centralized in a dump or something of the sort to prevent the streets being piled with debris. Or with sewage services that made flushing toilets possible. Maybe I'm just too used to the society that I grew up in an and find it amazing that people don't bat an eye at these inconveniences.<br />
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Have you ever done any travel in developing countries, or even in undeveloped areas in this country. What is your perspective on this?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02932547748512752260noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3714940922914584417.post-6921255914693117202013-06-13T08:06:00.004-07:002013-06-13T08:10:55.877-07:00How much do we trust the watchers...<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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The recent "revelations" about the "illegal" surveillance program recently are nothing more than a ploy. Congress has known about these activities since they began during the G.W. Bush administration. The fact that congress is acting outraged is absurd, since even if they didn't know the extent to which the NSA was watching us, they still knew their capabilities and what the federal government was legally authorized to do. Furthermore, the level of snooping actually taking place seems to be rather overblown by some to score political points. The exact amount of data being collected is unknown, but whatever it is it would be impossible for humans or computers to go through everything. They're looking for specific, targeted hits of information and keywords. If you're not involved in activity that would alert the NSA, you're probably not being watched, your emails are probably not being read, and your phone calls are not being monitored.<br />
Now, with all of that being said, there is a major question we as a country need to ask. Even if the government doesn't use this surveillance to "watch" all of us, but is only focusing on specific information and people, should they have the right to collect this information on us in the first place? Is this an overreach of government and security? We as a nation haven't determined this. After the Sept. 11 terrorist attack, it seemed that U.S. citizens were ready to give carte blanche to our security and intelligence establishment to use any means necessary to track down potential terrorists. Now we're trying to backtrack (or maybe not even, but are outraged at the reality of what security means), but either we've already authorized the program, or it's secret and therefore we don't know it's happening. If we as citizens really were that upset about it, we could create a big enough stir to stop the program. Certainly we would be fear-shamed by politicians of both stripes into trying to preserve the program in the hope of stopping future terrorism and protecting overall security; but if we truly believed our individual liberty were being threatened we could stop the program.<br />
I personally could care very little if some computer is collecting my phone records and internet search records, but I do have a problem with the NSA being able to sift through these records whenever they like, even if I'm not a suspect in any particular crime. I think that a lot of people feel the same way. If we want to stop it, let's stop it. If we think security is that important, let's shut up about it and move. Either way, let's talk about this in a real, rational way, instead of allowing politicians to feign anger about something that they've known about and authorized since the program began.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02932547748512752260noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3714940922914584417.post-47781472456762630392013-05-30T08:18:00.000-07:002013-05-30T08:18:26.863-07:00What do I get....?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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I was watching an interview with Christopher Hitchens the other day and it got me to thinking. I started thinking of how interesting it would be to get Hitchens' perspective on death and religion now that he's passed to the "other side". I mean, who knows where he's at, if he's anywhere at all; but the interesting thing is that Hitchens was so sure of his non-religious (or atheistic) beliefs - as many religious or "spiritual" individuals are about the existence of an after-life - it would be interesting to hear what he had to say now that he's actually experiencing whatever it is we will experience.<br />
Now certainly I would be more interested in hearing from my dead grandparents, or other dead relatives, or other dead people that I know, but the majority of the people that I know that are dead (in fact, I can't think of one that is not) followed a religion, and most of them followed Christianity which believes in the existence in Heaven and Hell, so the outcome whether you're good or bad is pretty much already known. Alright, maybe known isn't a fair word, but every religious person has some conception of what they expect to happen when they die; whether that means going to Heaven or going to Hell. Whereas, a person who doesn't have a religious belief (or doesn't believe in a deity) really expects nothing to happen when they die, and therefore any alternative would be an amazing wonder to behold.<br />
This is why I think hearing Christopher Hitchens' perspective on his own life after death would be interesting. If nothing happens, as Hitchens believes, at least we would get a biting satirical rift by Hitchens on the futility of religion and the idiocy of believing in something serves no purpose in life, and obviously even less so in death (ironically failing to recognize that his state could be caused by his lack of faith even if a deity did exist, so he would never know the difference). Or, more interestingly, would be Hitchens' take on an existence in either Heaven or Hell. I imagine he wouldn't even be frustrated living in Hell, because at least it would give him fodder and free-reign to further debase religion and God, because he would ask what type of god actually creates humankind with free will, but then damns them to eternal pain and anguish if they don't worship their creator (possibly justifiably so). I imagine Hitchens would be annoyed by Heaven; not only because of the unchanging feelings of bliss, but because it would be further evidence of the pomposity of God to actually reward people who worship that which has created them, all to his own glory. God created the universe. Created humans. Gave humans free will. But then only gives happiness to those who worship him. Hitchens would say this is the height of egomania.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02932547748512752260noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3714940922914584417.post-41180087014443126962013-05-16T10:10:00.002-07:002013-05-16T10:10:40.248-07:00Government is...<br />
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The IRS. Good? Bad? Necessary?<o:p></o:p></div>
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I guess it’s easy for people to make a broad claim that I support big
government because I’m unabashedly liberal, and therefore I generally support
government assistance on many fronts. And I guess that I myself am guilty of defining
conservatives as anti-tax, anti-government hate-mongers who care nothing for
the poor and are only looking out for themselves, their guns, and their money.
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I think the disconnect comes about when we define government as one,
major monolithic institution. It isn’t. Government is as varied and diverse as
the “private sector”, which is also often presented as having one definition
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The IRS targeting conservative organizations that were seeking
tax-exempt status was wrong. And while I most likely disagree with these
organizations and their goals, I certainly don’t think it adds to democracy to
have an institution within our government choosing winners and losers based
upon political factors (to be a little fair to the IRS, many of the
institutions filing for the tax-exempt status would not or should not have qualified
– this includes many liberal organizations). So the IRS was wrong in this
instance, but can we then turn around and say that since the IRS is part of “government”,
then FEMA is wrong also, and so is HHS, and so is DHS, and so is the FDA. Where
does it end? ALL government programs and institutions can’t be bad, can they?
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We’re quick in this country to look for easy fixes and broad impacts. A
government institution or program does something wrong – GET RID OF IT. But wait,
wasn’t it performing some useful functions? Doesn’t matter, it messed up, so
off with its head. That’s taxpayer money at work, and if it messes up its
accountable to the taxpayers. Okay, fair enough. But what about all of the good
services it provides – do those not account for anything against the mistake(s)
it made? This is where conservatives and liberals seem to have the largest differential
in opinion. Whereas liberals would say that the good outweighs the bad, and
that there will always be government waste, but it’s a byproduct of the
positive functions; conservatives are more apt to cut off the head of the
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When there is waste in the private sector, we imagine that “the market”
will work it out. That’s capitalism, right? WRONG. Government contracts,
subsidies, tax breaks, even laws specifically written to benefit corporations.
These are all examples of “government” propping up the “private sector”,
because these companies no longer operated effectively or efficiently. And
while it’s easy to turn this around and say that it is government that is at
fault in this scenario (and part of the blame does lie with legislators), it is
important to recognize that the same big business conservatives that are
pimping the idea of the free market are the ones taking the government
handouts. It is hypocrisy, and worse than that, it takes money away from
government programs that help those in need to prop up businesses that are
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I had a discussion with a conservative friend of mine a while back in
which he said that he didn’t like paying taxes because he felt that the money
was being spent on things he didn’t agree with. I stood there for a second
trying to get into his head. Not really understanding how an intelligent person
could be so dense. I said plainly, “That’s a democracy. How do you think I
feel? I’m sure I disagree with many of the things government spends money on
that you agree with.” He just shrugged it off, but I think the point was noted
in his psyche, because it’s a true point that no one wants to face up to. Yes,
of course we all want our government to represent our individual ideological
perspective, but I’d rather live in a country where I didn’t get what I want,
but the process was fair, rather than live in country where a dictator happened
to support my views. FOR THE RECORD – this is an oversimplification, because we
don’t, in fact, live in a democracy, and unfortunately our government is more
reactive to interest group and moneyed individual pressure than to that of the
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Terrorism <br />
ter·ror·ism [ter-uh-riz-uhm] - noun<br />
1. The use of violence and threats to intimidate or coerce, especially for political purposes.<br />
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Why is it that we declare people who plant bombs to kill and maim people, to illicit fear, terrorists, but we call people who do it with a gun just crazy individuals? What's the difference?<br />
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We have very little information as to the motivation behind the bombing that occurred at the Boston Marathon last week. However, the information that has trickled out seems to point to extremist views that ratcheted up to the point of committing a heinous act of violence. But so far we have no actual information linking the brothers to any terrorist group or terrorist training.<br />
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I've heard talking heads throw out the fact that they used the pressure cooker bomb as evidence, because it's been used by terrorists in other parts of the world. But I counter that anyone with even a limited knowledge of the internet can get access to the anarchists cookbook. Until I hear some definitive evidence that either one or both of these terrorists have specific links to a terror organization, I don't find it advantageous to conjecture.<br />
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Which brings me to the main issue, which is what makes someone a terrorist. It seems that by media standards, one can meet the threshhold of terrorist with any of the following:<br />
(a) any immigrant that commits an act of violence against a U.S. citizen<br />
(b) any person that uses a bomb to commit an act of violence<br />
(c) any Muslim that commits any act of violence whatsoever<br />
(d) any person that commits an act of violence after traveling to a majority-Muslim country<br />
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This criteria is bullshit. The media is wrong. The Tsarnaev Brothers are terrorists, there is little to no doubt about that (unless of course the police have the wrong person). But so is the shooter at Sandy Hook, so is the shooter at the Sikh temple, so is the Aurora shooter, so is the shooter in Tucsom, so is the shooter in Fort Hood, so is the shooter at Virginia Tech, and on and on and on.<br />
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These are all terrorist acts by the definition provided above. But because most of them were committed by "normal" young, white men, they are not deemed as such. Added to the fact that our nation's obsession with guns, and the gun lobby's huge influence, diminishes the impact that guns and gun violence have on the national conscious. I've never heard someone say, "bombs don't kill people, people kill people", but for some reason our society allows the same to be said of guns.<br />
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We are a nation that lives in fear. I've heard way more times than I'm comfortable with that people are stock-piling ammunition because they want to be prepared when "stuff goes down". I'm not exactly sure what they mean by this, or what they think the government is planning, but THAT is a the threat of violence that intimidates and coerces.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02932547748512752260noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3714940922914584417.post-24084910526070555242013-02-21T15:55:00.003-08:002013-02-21T15:55:47.640-08:00Fairness, huh...<br />
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Fairness may be an easy term to define, but it’s much more nebulous
when we make an effort to point it out in reality or determine how to bring it
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The reason I got to thinking about fairness is because on NPR this last
week (I listen to NPR on my way to work) they've been discussing the “sequester”
and the impact it will have on the defense department. NPR has been talking
about how the deep cuts in defense spending will impact the civilian jobs paid
for by the defense department (employees will be forced to take 22 unpaid
furlough days per year), and how the cuts will affect our “military readiness”.
Now, obviously Defense is posturing, because the last thing they want is for
their bloated budget to get cut, and for them to actually have to tighten their
belt and buy equipment that gets used and pay for personnel that actually
serves the interest of the armed forces; but that’s an issue for another day.
Let’s suffice it to say that the Defense Department will say and do whatever
they have to do to continue to receive the portion of the budget they receive.
But what struck me most about this article was not the fact that the Defense
Department was whining about furlough days and military readiness, but the
complete failure of NPR – the supposed mouthpiece of the left – in discussing
how the other part of the sequester, the cuts in non-defense spending, will <a href="http://www.whitehouse.gov/the-press-office/2013/02/08/fact-sheet-examples-how-sequester-would-impact-middle-class-families-job">affect
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But I guess I shouldn't be surprised by this fact. Fairness doesn't
matter in this country. Fairness is a buzz word used by politicians to get
people to hate and deride other people, while at the same time doing things
that are unfair to others. Is it fair that minor drugs offenses send people to
jail and give them felony convictions which affect the rest of their lives,
while investment bankers gamble with your and the government’s money and lose
literally trillions of dollars, but receive nothing lighter than a golden
parachute (and a government bailout)? Is it fair that the working poor can
hardly make ends meet, but are not only scorned by the wealthy for (supposedly)
draining government coffers, but also pay higher tax rates than those at the very
top who don’t even work for a living (and actually are the one’s draining government
coffers through subsidies and special tax breaks)? Is it fair that immigrants
(illegal or not) come to this country every day, labor hard doing shitty work
while constantly fearing discrimination and deportation, while working hard to
make a living for their family, only to have politicians in this country turn
around and describe them all as criminals, who are doing nothing to serve this
country but instead draining our resources (which is patently false according
to statistics – something conservatives are generally afraid of) and/or taking
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The fact is, things are not fair. I wish they were. I wish everyone had
basic health care. I wish everyone had access to a good education. I wish
everyone could get a job. I wish everyone cared to get a job. I wish people
didn't manipulate the system. I wish there wasn't fraud. I wish the media was
open and honest. I wish politicians were open and honest. I wish people who
committed financial crimes would be held responsible. I wish. I wish. I wish.
The list goes on and on. But the reality is reality. But one wish that I think
actually can and should come true is that people who support the system of
inequality and unfairness, shouldn't be allowed to whine about it once they’re
facing the sharp end. To quote John Kennedy from his inaugural address, “those
who foolishly sought power by riding the back of the tiger ended up inside”.<o:p></o:p></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02932547748512752260noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3714940922914584417.post-33033095393710382512013-01-23T14:56:00.000-08:002013-01-23T14:56:08.797-08:00A true diplomat...<br />
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I did not vote for Hillary Clinton in the 2008 primary
elections. I didn’t want her to be president. I wasn’t even a huge fan of hers.
I don’t know why. I guess I was just excited about the potential for a Barack
Obama presidency (and had been since his Democractic convention speech in 2004).
The election got nasty. Hillary said some things that people cringed at. Bill
said some things that people cringed at. Barack said some things people cringed
at. It was thought that President Obama taking Joe Biden as his VP was a slight
to Hillary – and maybe it was – but it turned out to be one of the best
administrational slights ever made.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Hillary Clinton has been no less than a phenomenal Secretary
of State. Hillary not only repaired the fracture within the Democratic party
with her steadfast commitment to the Obama administration foreign policy, but
also gained the respect of most Republican lawmakers and citizens with her tireless
travel and diplomatic efforts in reaching out to leaders throughout all corners
of the globe. Clinton has visited more countries and traveled more extensively
than any other secretary of state in history. She is indefatigable. She’s
visited several countries during her tenure that have been ignored by American
presidents and secretaries of state for years. She saw before her as Secretary
of State a task that was nothing short of changing how the rest of the world
perceived the United States. And while that is a continuing process (and
hopefully her legacy will continue under Sec. of State John Kerry), Clinton has
made giant strides in improving the relations of the United States with the rest
of the world.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Clinton faced congressional hearings today to answer
questions about the murder of diplomatic personnel in Benghazi, Libya on
September 11, 2012. Clinton was nothing short of spectacular. Certainly this
was an awful situation. Awful for the families who suffered losses of their
loved ones. Awful for other diplomatic personnel who lost a colleague and are
also put at unease over their own security. Awful for the administration that
place those personnel in harm’s way. And awful for an American public that sees
the hatred against the United States being manifested in such a horrific way.
And rightly, the public and members of congress want answers to questions about
how this was allowed to happen. Republican congressmen attempted – and succeeded
– in making Susan Rice, the U.S. Ambassador to the United Nations, the
sacrificial lamb, by accusing her of fabricating a protest that had turned into
an attack on the consulate in Benghazi. Susan Rice was incorrect, that much has
been shown to be true, but she was simply relaying CIA talking points that she
had been given, to the Sunday morning talk shows. Rice should not have had to
fall on the sword, but as a consummate professional, she did so to protect the
integrity of the office on Secretary of State.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Hillary has done the same thing. While Clinton wasn’t the
one to attend the Sunday morning shows, she would have given the same
information that Ambassador Rice gave. And that is what Hillary has indicated in
these congressional hearings. She said it before and she’s repeated it today
that she was the one responsible for diplomatic personnel, and while there
might have been failures in providing adequate security to American consulates
and diplomatic personnel around the globe, there was so much happening during
that time that there was little that she or the State Department could do. It was
a bad situation and the Secretary of State cannot wave a magic wand and make a
bad situation disappear. But she’s proven throughout the questioning of the
Benghazi attacks, and especially during these hearings, that she is a person of
integrity and will sacrifice herself to the dogs of politics to save the face
of the office of the Secretary of State, the President, and the country as a whole.<o:p></o:p></div>
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We will miss you Madame Secretary. See you in 2016.<o:p></o:p></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02932547748512752260noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3714940922914584417.post-25447222858130426822013-01-22T14:20:00.000-08:002013-01-22T14:54:27.108-08:00Change and no change...<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Today I wanted to write a dual post about the president and
myself.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I know a lot of people did not care as much about the
RE-election of Barack Obama as they did about the election. The economy is
still poor. We will have wiretapping issues. We still use drone strikes. We’re
still in Afghanistan. But watching the president take the oath of office, and
deliver what many have considered a bold, hyper-partisan inaugural address, I
couldn’t help but feel a little choked up at the idea that this country not
only elected, but re-elected the first black president in our history. I read a
great Eugene Robinson article today, where he talked about what an amazing
statement it makes that through all of the president’s trials and tribulations
during his first term, he came through with an electoral victory, and race (at
least with regard to the president) has become a muted or non-existent issue.
Now that is not to say that we’ve attained that post-racial world, but at least
the majority of Americans now accept that it’s not strange for a black man to
be occupy the White House and maintain the position as the most powerful man in
the world.<o:p></o:p></div>
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It is amazing. Sure, we heard a lot of racist undertones
(and overtones) throughout the first four years of Barack’s presidency, but
most of that stuff was fallen off to a light din in the radical corners of
American political life. The president, for all intents and purposes, has
changed the dynamic of American politics by not becoming (in the eyes of
prejudice people who don’t consider themselves prejudice) a token black
president that we as a country can hang our hat on, and then send packing with
the election of a rich old white man, but instead an enduring presence during a
period of uncertainty and insecurity. Barack is no longer only the first black president,
but he is now a re-elected president; and specifically a president re-elected
in the midst of continuing economic turmoil. Good on you President Obama, good
on you.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Now onto myself. I’m not perfect. I’m sure that I have
prejudices just like everyone else, and I’m sure that from time to time I say
things that some people cringe at. However, anyone who knows me knows that I
make painstaking efforts to be sensitive in what I say, and am the first to
correct someone who I feel has said something insensitive or offensive. Again,
I’m not perfect and I’m not bringing this up to say that I’m “holier than thou”,
but I at least make an effort.<o:p></o:p></div>
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This brings me to a frustrating point of contention I’ve
encountered in American society. I’ve noticed this among white people, but in
talking to people of other racial/ethnic groups I know that it occurs there
too, that people think that somehow because you’re of the same race that they
are free to say whatever they want in front of you. It’s as if because we share
the same skin tone it means I automatically agree with your prejudice or
outright racism. And then, when I correct the person and let them know that I’m
NOT okay with what they’re saying, then I’m questioned as to why I’m so upset
about, because “it doesn’t affect me”. And my response is always the same
(albeit somewhat trite) – “it affect ALL of us”. I don’t to live in a society
where prejudice and racism exist, so I’m offended when it occurs by anyone
against anyone. I don’t need to be a member of any particular group to be
offended and I shouldn’t have to defend myself for being so. I should be the
one (and am) that is questioning the person for thinking that they can “get
away with” talking in some loose, effluent manner, just because our skin color
looks similar. It just makes me sad and angry.<o:p></o:p></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02932547748512752260noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3714940922914584417.post-63281986430646773912013-01-02T14:05:00.001-08:002013-01-03T08:26:38.057-08:00Quentin unchained...<br />
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So I debated whether or not to write something about <i>Django
Unchained</i>. I had considered writing about the movie before I had seen it,
because what I was planning on writing didn't have so much to do with the movie
itself, but the reaction to it. However, because of laziness, and also because
of a certain uneasiness with writing about movies that I haven’t seen, I decided
to hold off.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Well I saw <i>Django Unchained</i> over the weekend, and while I’m
still digesting the film, I think I’m at least comfortable writing a post about
it.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Let me begin by saying that while Spike Lee is an
intelligent man (or seemingly so), a creative filmmaker, and an undisputed
maven in black cinema (an American cinema in general), I question his criticism
of Django before even seeing the film. I can’t say that no one will find this
movie racist (I personally did not, but more on that later), because it is
subjective, after all, and that means that what I took away from it is not
necessarily what someone else will take away from it. But I can’t help but
accuse Spike Lee of bias, as he has a history of criticizing Quentin Tarantino
(don’t get me wrong, I’m no Tarantino apologist) for being a racist; so the
context of a white filmmaker – especially Quentin Tarantino – making a glib
film about slavery naturally would rub him the wrong way. But as a filmmaker –
especially a filmmaker that deals with racial issues – should at least give
Tarantino a chance to make his argument before completely debasing the film, and
calling it racist.<o:p></o:p></div>
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That being said, had Spike Lee seen the film, he still might
have come to the same conclusion. And to be fair, I’ll agree with Spike Lee in
saying that Tarantino’s use of the “N” word in his movies seems more about his
potential desire for using a controversial word freely than to create
authenticity in his characters and movies. In my reality – and my reality in no
way reflects anybody else’s – people don’t just throw around the “N” word,
whether that be in the company of black people or not. The “N” word is a taboo
word, and just because a white person is friendly or comfortable with an
individual or group of black people, doesn't mean that the word becomes
standard nomenclature. In the black community it could be different, and I
understand that, but I think Lee’s criticism is more of Tarantino’s white
characters’ flippant use of the word, rather than his black characters.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Sorry, I trailed off a bit there. So while I understand Lee’s
issues with Tarantino’s use of the “N” word, and the “N” word was used A LOT –
I repeat A LOT – in <i>Django Unchained</i>, the use actually seemed very apropos to
the film, and actually added a certain authenticity that Tarantino sometimes
lacks in his historic pieces. If you read my blog, you might have stumbled upon
a piece where I talk about the “N” word, so you know that I’m no fan; but as I
said, it’s use in <i>Django Unchained</i>, while very liberal, actually seemed quite
realistic. The use of the word itself, I hope at least, didn't solely create
the impression in some people’s minds that this movie, or Tarantino himself, is
racist.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Now to the film itself. I personally did not find the film
racist. It is true that a filmmaker ought to be sensitive when addressing a
topic such as slavery; but Quentin Tarantino is not a sensitive filmmaker, so
while should doesn't equate to is, that doesn't mean he was being racist with
his insensitivity. The film, similar to his efforts in <i>Inglorious Basterds</i>, is
essentially a revenge movie where Tarantino rewrites history to make oppressed
people beat their oppressors. While people may question why Tarantino made the
movie, if I was to venture a guess I would say that it’s because he’s a
filmmaker who is interested in the idea of oppression and social injustice, and
therefore wanted to make a bloody farce based upon what would happen if history
were fair.<o:p></o:p></div>
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That’s my take on the movie, but I’m interested in knowing
what others thought of the movie. Did you find it racist? Did you think there
was a point in Tarantino making the movie? Is it fair for Spike Lee to disavow
the movie without ever seeing it?<o:p></o:p></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02932547748512752260noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3714940922914584417.post-15038151413775293232012-12-27T15:25:00.001-08:002012-12-27T15:25:56.820-08:00It's time. No, no, no...it's time...<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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I’m not necessarily anti-gun, although in my perfect world
guns would not exist at all (neither would war, hate, discrimination, etc.).
However, there is a statistical reality that exists, and in this statistical
reality guns, while they may make individuals feel safer in an isolated
anecdotal situation, “up-the-ante” so they say, and turn a bad situation into a
potentially (or almost assuredly) a deadly situation.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I think the phrase I’ve heard from politicians regarding the
response of the NRA to the Newton shootings has been “tone deaf”. I couldn’t
say it better myself. First of all, let me say that both the president of the NRA,
David Keene, and the Executive Vice President of the NRA, Wayne LaPierre,
saying that the only thing that will NOT have an effect on gun violence is
stricter gun laws is absolutely insane. These two gentlemen will not even admit
that the type of gun or size of magazine have any effect whatsoever on the
types of shootings (mass shootings) that have taken place over the last few
decades. I guess I don’t understand this perspective. If you limit the size of
magazine and limit the rapidity with which guns can fire, you obviously limit
the amount of damage that can be done in a specific amount of time. That is a
statistical fact. If someone uses a hunting rifle with a five round clip, the
person would have to chamber the bullet after every shot, and reload the
magazine after about 5 shots. This is going to take significantly longer than a
gun with a thirty round clip that fires with every pull of the trigger until
the clip is done. Tone deaf, indeed.<o:p></o:p></div>
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The tone-deafness doesn’t stop with whether or not guns have
to do with shootings, the ridiculous (and incredibly insensitive) suggestion
that we should put armed guards in every school is outrageous. Adding more guns
to schools, no matter who has them, makes children unsafe. How do we know when
the gun-toting security guard is going to go crazy and not only have access to
the school, but have access to the school carrying a gun. This puts the
children in immediate danger. The best way to protect our children in schools
is to continue to make it difficult for people not affiliated with the schools
out, keep children (and all others) from bringing weapons into schools, give
more funding toward mental health treatment, and limit the size of magazine,
rapidity of fire, and number of guns that an individual can own. More guns in
school’s is such a poor idea that I can’t figure out how the NRA, typically an organization
that is so strictly on message, that it scares me it has either become a scary
organization or completely political.<o:p></o:p></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02932547748512752260noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3714940922914584417.post-15602652016984576602012-12-18T10:11:00.001-08:002013-01-02T14:23:13.631-08:00An Unexpected[ly long] Journey...<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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I saw The Hobbit last night, and I have to say I was
underwhelmed. Now, I should preface my review here by saying that I missed the
last 30 minutes of the movie, because the lights came on and movie shut off,
and we were forced to evacuate due to a fire alarm. However, I can honestly say
that I wasn’t that disappointed about having to head home.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I guess I should start by saying that the movie is not bad.
It just lacked something; something that made the Lord of the Rings so exciting
to watch. It might have been a mistake for Peter Jackson to try and stretch a
small adventure book (smaller than any of the Lord of the Rings books) into
three movies. I’m not sure what his motivation for doing so was, but if the
goal was to include every last detail of the book (even the minutiae), then he
accomplished that. There were just too many scenes where we watched the
characters running, or looking out over the scenery. Some of that stuff is
good, but too is much is, well…too much.<o:p></o:p></div>
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There were some exciting parts, and the actors for the most
part did a good job. However, the development of the dwarves was a bit thin,
even for Thorin, the main character. The first 20 minutes of the movie is spent
telling the back story; most of which seemed superfluous to the story. We
needed the main points, and then wanted to jump into the movie. The Lord of the
Rings did a great job of this with the Galadriel voiceover, and explained
everything in about 3 minutes.<o:p></o:p></div>
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It’s possible that the final 20 minutes of the movie really
brought everything together for the first movie. Or, it’s possible that once
the three movies have been released that the whole story will be a cinematic
masterpiece. But, as of now, it seems that this movie was incredibly
overwrought, like Jackson was simply trying to rehash his success in making
Lord of the Rings, by remaking the movie with a different plot. And to the plot
specifically; The Hobbit was a much lighter romp than the Lord of the Rings,
but Jackson brought none of the light adventure that was possible, and instead
tried to make the dwarves quest as being similar in significance and scope to
that of the characters in the Lord of the Rings – which is isn’t.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Overall score: B-<o:p></o:p></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02932547748512752260noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3714940922914584417.post-35785601326480759272012-12-14T10:58:00.000-08:002012-12-14T10:58:20.604-08:00How....<br />
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I don’t get it. I can’t comprehend what would make someone
come into a mall, or into a school and just start randomly shooting people.
Obviously these people have mental health issues that are not dealt with. But
you know what, fuck the shooters; everyone spends all of their time talking
about them, and forgets about the victims – both dead and alive.<o:p></o:p></div>
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We mourn for those who died, because it is so tragic for
someone to die when they’re just going about their everyday lives. A child in a
classroom. A person doing holiday shopping. A college student walk to class. A
private at a recruitment depot. These people didn't deserve to die (not that
anyone ever “deserves” to die, necessarily), they were in what they considered
a safe situation. But it seems that nowhere is safe anymore. We live in a world
where fear has become constant, even if kept at a hush. Maybe it’s like this in
a lot of place in the world, and the United States is finally starting to be privy
to it. Maybe not, I don’t know.<o:p></o:p></div>
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What I can’t stop thinking about is those children that were
in the school in CT, or at Columbine in CO, or at any of the other school
shootings that have taken place in the country, and how the situation will
define them. Probably more so for younger kids, but this situation will define
them for the rest of their lives. To have someone come into your school and
kill 18 of your classmates - classmates who you sat with, and played with, and
ate lunch with, but will never do so again – will unfortunately define them for
the rest of their lives. It isn't fair. I guess a lot of things happen to a lot
of people who don’t deserve it, and it ends up defining them; but this shooting
happened on this day, and I couldn't help but think of how awful that is not
only to take someone’s life by killing them, but to control someone’s life by
defining them.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Sorry if this was disjointed, I’m just at a loss for how
someone could do this. Mass murder is mass murder, and it’s always awful; but
somehow it just becomes unfathomable when it happens to kids.<o:p></o:p></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02932547748512752260noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3714940922914584417.post-44651871294161146092012-12-12T10:48:00.001-08:002013-01-30T07:33:18.511-08:00What's the magic number...<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Having a conversation with a friend of mine, Crystal Marie over at <a href="http://www.awordorthree.com/" target="_blank">A Word or Three</a>, got me to thinking about something that I’m not sure why I never thought of before. I've thought a lot about relationships. I've thought a lot about love and lust. I've thought a lot about married couples and how in the hell people are able to stand each other for 20, 30, 40, 50+ years. And I've also thought about what causes marriages to fail. But in all that time about thinking of relationships, I’m not sure why it never occurred to me to actually put the question in front of people who have not only been married for a long time, but have been happily married for a long time. I didn't do this (although I would like to at some point).<br />
I don’t want to create a matrix, or do some empirical study, per se, but rather get real answers from couples to open-ended questions about how they've stayed true and happy with one another for so long (I suppose this doesn't have to include married couples, because that would preclude gay and lesbian couples that have been together for a long time, prior to the “turning of the tide” we’re seeing finally happening in this country).<br />
However, I digress.<br />
While I haven’t done this study yet, I’m going to make a conjecture about what I think are the strongest factors that determine not only a lasting, but a happy marriage as well. I’m no expert – hell, I’m not even married – but here goes:<br />
<b>HONESTY</b>. Honestly is the single most important thing in a relationship. And while brutal honestly can at times be hurtful, I think that people develop and understanding of their partner, and therefore know how to deal with them in an honest, and yet unhurtful way. Honestly can be as simple as letting your partner know where you are going, whether you’re upset about something (important one), or especially if you’re beginning to feel as though you’re drifting apart. While honestly won’t save every marriage, it’ll make the relationships that do last a lot closer.<br />
<b>MUTUAL ENJOYMENT</b>. This should be a no-brainer, but it doesn't seem to be so these days. I’m not saying that people have to marry (or date long-term) someone that excites them like no one else, but in order to stay interested in one another you should have both independent and shared interests. Independent interests (and friends, for that matter) allows for each person to continue developing outside of the relationship, and keeps the conversation fresh when they come back together. Shared interests are important, because it gives a couple something to do together, and it’s those shared interests that can also help to break through those tough times when things might have become distant.<br />
<b>INTIMACY</b>. This might have been more of what people were thinking when I said “mutual enjoyment”, but I think intimacy is separate. While sex and intimacy is certainly part of “shared interests” (I guess it works as an “independent interest” for some couples, as well), I think it deserves its own category. I’m not so naïve to believe that a couple is going to have passion throughout their relationship; however, they should have intimacy. Intimacy includes a whole range of things; sex, talking together, taking a walk together, enjoying just sitting with one another, and sharing information with your partner that you wouldn't share with anyone else. I guess for me, it would be assumed that I would know my partner better than anyone else does – I think the term is warts and all.<br />
<b>ALLOWING EACH OTHER TO CHANGE</b>. Next to honestly, this is probably the most important thing to maintaining a happy, healthy, long-lasting relationship. The reality is that we as people are going to change throughout our lives. The way we look is going to change, the way we act is going to change, and the way we interact is going to change. So expecting that the person you married today is going to be the same person in 50 years is absurd. However, there should be an expectation that as each of you change, you will be open and honest about the way you’re feeling, and don’t change apart, but grow together. This allows you develop the relationship instead of doom it. I've heard it said that people wake up after 25 years of marriage and say they don’t know the person they’re married to anymore. Well where the hell were you during all that time when they were changing? If you don’t know them, then chances are they probably don’t know you. Couldn't you have, at any point along the way, stopped and asked the person how they were feeling about their lives, about your relationship, about whether they thought they were changing? It’s better to grow together than to grow separate; because while growing together makes you stronger, growing separate makes you grow apart.<br />
Alright, that is all from me, the relationship expert (who’s not in a relationship). I don’t know everything, and you probably shouldn't listen to me, but these are just things I've come up with from watching relationships and listening to intelligent people I know.<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02932547748512752260noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3714940922914584417.post-77861886247259620062012-11-20T09:39:00.000-08:002012-11-20T10:03:17.424-08:00Okay, you're both wrong, now move on...<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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I won’t claim to have a deep knowledge of the Palestinian-Israeli
conflict. This war (I’m not sure if we can classify it as such, but I’m not
sure what else to call it – maybe occupation) has been going on since the State
of Israel was established in 1948. Certainly the decision by the United Nations
to place the displaced European Jews on land already occupied by the
Palestinian people was questionable, but the situation for the Jews was more
than dire, and therefore something had to be done; ergo, the establishment of
the State of Israel.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Well, wouldn’t you know it, this didn’t sit well with the Palestinians
or others in the Arab League, and it set of the Arab-Israeli War of 1948. This
first war displaced many Palestinian civilians and pit the Jordanians and
Egyptians against the Israelis, priming for future wars to come. Unrest
continued to occur, but nothing major, until 1967 when the Israelis, expecting
an attack from several Arab states, launched a pre-emptive attack on Jordan,
Egypt, Syria and Iraq. The war, as stated by the name, was ostensibly over
after just six days of fight, with Israel taking control of the Gaza Strip, the
Golan Heights, the Sinai Peninsula, and occupying a larger portion of
Jerusalem. The war indicated to the Arab world, and the world at large, that
Israel was not to be trifle with. However, the war only increased tension in the
region.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Finally, in 1978, Israel and Egypt met at the Camp David Accords,
leading to the Israel Egypt Peace Treaty in 1979; this treaty gave the Sinai
Peninsula back to Egypt. However, Israel continued to have problems with other
actors in the region, and specifically with the Palestinians (as represented by
the PLO). In the early 2000s (after many fits and starts) Israel began to
withdraw its settlements and occupation of the Gaza Strip, turning over
authority (and giving autonomy to) the Palestinians living there. This move was
not welcomed by all Israelis, and there was much pushback. However, after the elections
of 2006, in which Hamas (a political party, with an army wing that is called a
terrorist group by the Israelis) won a plurality of the vote, Israel no longer
recognized the authority of the Palestinians to govern themselves in the
region, and have basically been fighting with them since then.<o:p></o:p></div>
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The Palestinians in the Gaza and the Israelis along the border have
been trading rocket sorties over the past few years, but there have been a few
times when they’ve come to the brink of war. We’re now close again. The problem
is that Israel, supported whole-heartedly by the United States – with both
foreign aid in terms of money and weapons – has been guilty of such disproportionate
response, that their claims of defense do not hold up. Hamas rockets fly over
Israeli cities in small burst (and shot down by Israeli’s new missile defense
system, the <i>Iron Dome</i>), and then
Israel retaliates with a shelling that decimates buildings, killing dozens of
civilians in Gaza. This is essentially a repeat of the conflict that arose in
2008, in which Hamas was firing rockets into Israel, and the Israelis sent
F-16s across the border to destroy schools, mosques, etc., which they said Hamas
was using for missile storage (and confirmed in certain cases). Regardless, the
conflict was incredibly one-sided with regard to the death toll; more than
1,000 dead Palestinians, as compared to 13 dead Israelis.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I think we can come to the conclusion from the sordid history in Israel
and Palestine that this is an incredibly complicated problem. There have been
moments when an agreement was close – as in the 2000 Camp David summit where
Ehud Barak offered to create a Palestinian State, but Yasser Arafat rejected it
– but both sides have been guilty of derailing the process. What we need is a
rational, fair, two-state solution that settles the issue of border control,
autonomy and recognition for the Palestinians, but also a melting of the cold
war that has been doing on for the last 60+ years.<o:p></o:p><br />
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P.S. IDF Spokesperson Avital Leibovich is very anti-Palestine, and justifies the killing of Palestinian civilians under the guise of defense. She feigns pity for the Israeli civilians that have to run to bomb shelters whenever they hear the air raid sirens, but cares nothing for the Palestinian civilians whose buildings are not hit with rockets, but blown up with bombs from IDF airplanes, and who have no bomb shelters to run to. This is not the type of person that should be formulating policy for the IDF.<br />
Also, President Obama needs to recognize that he's missing half of the picture. If Israel has the right to defend itself, then so does Palestine. If the Palestinians interpret Israeli occupation in Gaza to be an act of war, then they see themselves justified in launching rocket attacks. Then escalation leads to escalation, and nobody wins in the end (although undoubtedly the Palestinians will end up with exponentially more casualties). The United States needs to be neutral in both its support and condemnation.</div>
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“Especially the African-American community, the Hispanic community and
young people.”<o:p></o:p></div>
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“In each case, they [the Obama administration] were very generous in
what they gave to those groups,”<o:p></o:p></div>
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“With regards to the young
people, for instance, a forgiveness of college loan interest was a big gift, free
contraceptives were very big with young, college-aged women. And then, finally,
Obamacare also made a difference for them, because as you know, anybody now 26
years of age and younger was now going to be part of their parents’ plan, and
that was a big gift to young people. They turned out in large numbers, a larger
share in this election even than in 2008.”<o:p></o:p></div>
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“You can imagine for somebody making $25,000 or $30,000 or $35,000 a
year, being told you’re now going to get free health care, particularly if you
don’t have it, getting free health care worth, what, $10,000 per family, in
perpetuity — I mean, this is huge,”<o:p></o:p></div>
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“Likewise with Hispanic voters, free health care was a big plus. But in
addition with regards to Hispanic voters, the amnesty for children of illegals,
the so-called Dream Act kids, was a huge plus for that voting group.”<o:p></o:p></div>
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These were Mitt Romney’s statements in a recorded conference call with
his big donors post-election. This is the reason that he is stating that he
lost. And you know what, he’s right. You add up women (not just young women,
but any woman who cares about making her own choices in life), young people, Latinos,
and African Americans, you have most of the electorate (Obama also got an
overwhelmingly large percentage of the Asian-American vote) accounted for,
except for white men.<o:p></o:p></div>
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So essentially what Mitt Romney is saying in this statement is that the
Obama administration didn't cater as well to white men as every other
administration that has ever existed. While I wouldn't necessarily agree with
that statement (old white men got plenty of “gifts” from the Obama
administration), I don’t think that we as a country should be lamenting the
decreased influence of white men in our politics, our boardrooms, or anywhere
else in society. Old white men have had their run - it’s been long and deleterious
to pretty much every other social group – and it’s time that we as a nation
begin to embrace the original concept of this country, inclusion.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Romney’s statement, while misguided in its use of the word “gifts”,
actually makes a lot of sense. People would vote in their best interest. While
Romney is lying in saying that Obamacare provides free health care for people,
it is understandable that people would embrace a change to the healthcare
system that would positively benefit them and their family. He’s make it
possible for people with existing conditions to get health care, he’s removed
the lifetime caps, he’s allowed children up to 26 years of age to stay on their
parent’s plan, and most of all he’s created the mandate that forces everyone
into the market (think “skin in the game”), which in the long run will be able
to decrease cost, and hopefully encourage more competition.<o:p></o:p></div>
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And why would a woman vote for Mitt Romney? He and his running mate
have shown support for policies that would drastically diminish the ability of
a woman to make healthcare choices about her own body. I’m not sure why that
would be such a mystery that a woman who wants to control her own health, even
getting (*gasp*) birth control if she wanted/needed it, to vote for the person
that actually espouses a view in support of women’s rights.<o:p></o:p></div>
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As far as Latinos are concerned, the Republican Party has done nothing
but patronizingly pander to them in an effort to win votes. When it comes time
to actually create policy that benefits Latinos, Republicans are nowhere to be
found. It’s interesting, however, to note that Latinos should be a key
demographic for Republicans. Republicans espouse to believe in hard work,
family, pulling yourself up by your bootstraps, etc.; these seem to be characteristic
traits of Latinos (not to try and put anyone into a general category) and, in
fact, most immigrant groups, and yet immigrants are spit on by the Republican
Party and turned off by their jingoist, white is right, mentality.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Finally, African Americans. On the whole, I cannot see why the
Republican Party thinks that they have a chance to win the black vote. Not to
say that black people vote as a bloc, but Republicans have made every effort
they can to gerrymander this country into segregated districts, doing their
best to push black people into districts with only other black people. Was not
the “southern strategy” an overt effort to create fear of black people in this
country, by appealing to white voters misperceptions and stereotypes? Have
republicans changed their strategy at all? Not really. Newt Gingrich throughout
the Republican primary called Barack Obama a “food stamp president”, and
republicans talk of black people in this country as if every single one is on
welfare. They’re living in the past, and they want to keep it that way. Their
past is where the white man is superior, and the black man has to respect the
white man; they want to hold onto that for dear life.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Republicans after Obama’s first victory always referred to an unspoken “they”
that had taken the country away from “true Americans”. And while we can’t be
sure who exactly “they” are, we can surmise from the comments of Republicans,
from the tea party to Mitt Romney, that they were speaking of African-Americans,
Latinos, minorities in general, women, young people, LGBT people, religious
minorities, Muslims, immigrants, and basically anyone else that was not white,
was not married, was not heterosexual, was not born in this country, was not
Christian (hopefully Protestant, but they’d give you a little wiggle room as
long as you believed in Jesus), or was not a “job creator”. Republicans
fundamental belief is that this country was built by and for white people, and
everyone else is just “they” that are living here on “our” land on “our” dime.
I guess every group except for white people forgot that, and decided to vote
for the guy that actually considered them citizens of this country, and
therefore as important people and groups in our society.<o:p></o:p></div>
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